boundaries Archive
When we grow up with complex trauma, we learn survival skills. These survival skills are incredibly useful when we are children. They may not be as helpful as we think they are, but they definitely help. They help avoid painful …
I have been more motivated to move lately. It is coming from my goddess inner part who seems to be highly invested in the body and physical health. This is something my controller has never been too concerned about. Of …
There is nothing more complicated after a childhood of complex trauma than navigating relationships. Why? Complex trauma is relational. We don’t have complex trauma without the failure of the primary relationships in our lives. And while the dissociation we use …
My recovery work has taught me that the original traumatic experiences are about 5% of the total problem. Almost all children experience traumatic events, but if they have supportive parents, they can come to understand what they experienced and recover …
As a survivor of childhood trauma, I have spent my life surrounded by “all or nothing” people. And unfortunately, it made me an “all of nothing” person. I have spent years undoing the belief systems that come from a childhood …
For the past several years, I have been on a journey to heal my trauma. And not surprisingly, it hasn’t been easy.
Dear Inner Parts, You don’t live in the past anymore. You don’t have to be scared anymore. I am an adult and I am here to help and protect you when you need it. We live in a different world …
When it comes to trauma recovery, I often hear concerns from my clients about how change will manifest for them. Change is scary for survivors. During the traumatic years, change was never good for us. Needless to say, the idea …
As mental health professionals, it is crucial to respect a client’s self-determination, and his/hers own pace of achievement when goal setting. This might be difficult to respect at times since we want the best for clients. Remember to refrain one’s self, …
